I show respect for my partner by thanking him/her for all the good I received.
I show respect by assuming that my partner did the best he could. It is not necessary for me to point out what he did not do or stopped doing; it was not possible at the time, otherwise he would have done it. No: »If only you had ...« or »Why didn’t you…«
I give respect by showing consideration for my partner’s fear of separation; by taking what I did as mine and leaving what he did with him.
By respecting my partner I achieve the ability to separate.
Everyone does his or her best!