by Not Blaming Each Other
There can’t be any blame! If you want »to separate in love« don’t ever search for causes! There are too many reasons. No one knows whether those you find were the actual cause for the separation. Additionally, it achieves nothing apart from causing feelings of guilt. Wherever there is guilt, a cause will be sought.
Use your strength for the solution. The solution is not to be found in the past, but in your love for yourself and for your partner. A love that once was present. Just remember. In a crisis, and even during the process of separation, this love can be the rope with which you can pull yourself out of the mire of mutual blame.
He that seeks to blame refuses to see his own guilt.